Dating a guy with a long distance girlfriend
There is great freedom in the act of letting things go. If you’re dating someone who lives a train ride away, it’s easy to spontaneously hop on a late night train out of the city and surprise your boo.
If there’s international travel involved, it’s a different story.
As people’s lives become busier and as careers take off, your priorities shift.
It seems that all the negatives of an LDR in college are now its major selling points.
After a whirlwind week where you manage to cram in a months’ worth of getting to know you, he leaves, back to his life and you to yours.
The inevitable ennui sets in, but before you chalk this up to another fling with no staying power, do yourself a favor: Consider the adult long-distance relationship.
Now I’m in my early 30’s and single, but most of my friends are in relationships — a natural occurrence the older you get.
One of my best friends is in a long-distance relationship with someone who lives in another country.
Leave a party a little earlier and settle in if you know they’re going to be around.
If plane tickets are involved, talk about splitting the cost, and make sure that you’re not the one shelling out 0 every month to go somewhere for a harried, busy weekend. Relationships are hard because all of a sudden you have to incorporate someone else’ life into your own.
If you’re an independent person by nature, this intrusion can be awkward.
We had a frank chat over wine about this phenomenon and it was illuminating.
She assured me that the LDR of your 30’s is an entirely different beast than the one you endured in college.