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But the truth only came out after the smoke had long since cleared. Apart from dumping you, she undoubtedly had some other character flaws. And, looking back, if those women hadn’t dumped me – if I had GOTTEN these women who made me glow, I would be absolutely MISERABLE right now.
In a relationship, it’s smart to minimize the focus on your partners’ flaws. Despite their amazing assets, they both lacked some fundamental qualities that my current girlfriend has: Loyalty, compassion, patience, gratitude, big boobs. Listen, Ken, there are a few people who put it all together.
These nine guys had nothing to do with you, and it seems as if you are personalizing this entire situation.
Your wife definitely trusts you…otherwise she would never have told you about these other men.
Sometimes I did this because I was weak and needy and just wanted someone in my life.
Other times I did this because I was so enamored that her bad qualities barely even registered. And I had that feeling twice and they both dumped me, too.
In my mind she was perfect in every way, (except for the part where she just wasn’t that into me). It’s a rose-colored view of your ex, one that you’re having a hard time letting go of.
I’ve been dating on and off the past year and I have two main problems: I would be much more concerned with your second problem than your first. This is a common problem, one that is usually remedied by falling in love with someone. Do yourself a favor and think of the things that you didn’t like about your ex.
In other words, in order to commit to something as irrational as monogamy, we’d sure has hell BETTER be blinded by love.
Once you’re crazy about a girl, you won’t have to think twice as to whether you want to be in a relationship with her. Now, I understand that she broke up with you, so you never really developed a chance to hate her.
But that doesn’t mean she’s perfect – not by a long shot.
Of course, that blindness wears off, which is why, when you talk to older couples who have been married for 30 years, they’ll almost always tell you some version of “It’s hard work/We’re really just best friends/We know how to communicate and argue well/We support each other when it’s tough.” Etc, etc….
A favorite cliché says, “It’s not that my partner is perfect, it’s that she’s perfect for me.” We are willing to overlook all sorts of things when we’re in love.