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Maybe you love being outside in the great outdoors and are searching for someone similarly adventurous?Perhaps you’re a party animal who’s searching for a partner in crime?In order to match singles that are truly compatible, everyone that registers for gay dating with Elite Singles is asked to fill out an extensive questionnaire and personality test so that we can gain a deeper understanding of who you are and the sort of person that’s likely to suit you.Happy, committed relationships are always based on genuine compatibility, so gay dating with Elite Singles is all about being connected with the right fit for you.If you are indeed over 40, challenge that thought: you cannot change your age, but you can change your attitude about it.You are mature; you have wisdom; life experience; and a lot to offer. Make time for the things that enhance your self-care, whatever they may be, and for God’s sake, stop working so hard. Follow the basic recommendations for straight Boomers/Seniors: Some of these apply to us, and let’s start with safe sex.As a psychologist who has worked with LGBT people from all generational cohorts for thirty years, I have some ideas that may help you in your search: 1. Go to bars; if you don’t like them, or don’t enjoy alcohol-saturated environments, join community groups; volunteer for LGBT causes. Regardless of your age or ability status, everyone can find something active that they like to do.Know what you want, and focus accordingly: These days, because of the Internet, it is much easier to connect with like-minded people in terms of dating. If you live in a rural area where these options are not available, use your computer to connect — or take a deep breath and try and start a club/interest group where you live. Focus on what is under your control, and leave the rest: Are there demons in your head, telling you that you’re too old/too fat/too washed-up to find a loving relationship? Be content with who you are and what you have, and it will be much easier feel good about yourself when you meet others — of any age. Be honest: You know by now that ours is a youth-obsessed community, and it is easy for older people to feel invisible or marginalized.
But you can’t lie, especially on the Internet, where lying seems to be the of communicating.Copyright Douglas Haldeman & Susan Krauss Whitbourne, 2012 This is a good column with good advice.And the points made can be used not just for gay dating but for all dating. When you do decide to join one of the reviewed sites, make sure you create a complete and clear profile with a current picture. You may need to look at many profiles and answer many notes sent to you before making a choice or choices. Douglas Haldeman, an internationally renowned expert on gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgendered (LGBT) issues. I am lucky to be a veteran of 40 years of living as an out gay man and a psychologist in the LGBT community.He has a full time independent practice in Seattle, Washington which encompasses the LGBT communities and their relationship to mainstream American culture. Haldeman has contributed to the American Psychological Association (APA)'s work on LGBT issues, including the APA Guidelines for Psychological Practice with Lesbian, Gay, and Bisexual Clients. Living in the San Francisco area in the Seventies, I enjoyed the Disco Revolution; I marched with Harvey Milk; I sat bedside during the Eighties and Nineties at the deaths of countless patients and friends; and I did my part to rebuild our community in the '00s, and have thankfully lived to tell the tale.